i’ve come across a few themes over the past week. being an observer and a participant — often beer-bonging data and experiences — these are my connections

everyone is experiencing some level of pain

• some need space to vent it without suggestions or additional perspective. it’s a function of the ego to “need” to offer an opinion or input
• realization that others are experiencing pain — or empathy — changes the way one relates with another
• are you aware enough to understand that vulnerable conversations experience a level of disconnect when exerting power?

boys to men

• joseph campbell said that there is a lack of initiation into manhood
• one can tell a lot about a man by how he talks about and relates with his mother. often the wounding in that initial bond — if unexamined — continues to dictate the way a man relates with the world. research the anima
• what one man won’t do, another would proudly do
• a person who does not work to make contact with their emotions — especially their negative emotions — will project that negativity out into their reality
• ambiguity may be an attempt to circumvent consent

“pick-me” energy and “the hero”

• social media is destructive. it’s cheap validation. before posting, think about the intention, the impact… i’ve been there. i’ve fallen into the trap
• all fucking ego
• “the true test of a man’s character is what he does when no one is watching.” ~ john wooden
• true power is quiet. that’s the scary shit
• oh. and people who are always sick and complaining about being sick. i’m terribly sorry that you weren’t cared for appropriately when you were younger that you need others to pity you. seriously.
• pity is disgusting energy

defining others’ experiences and self-righteousness

• why is it so important for one to be right about another’s experience? how self-righteous. we incarnated to have experiences and, as humans, we learn from our experiences